Witness > Words | Mike Pacer | Episode #254
The BeatiDudes
Mike Pacer is with the BeatiDudes to talk about the gritty, grace-filled reality of Catholic marriage and fatherhood. From why kids actually want boundaries to how husbands can shift from praying “next to” to praying “with” their wives, Mike lays out a hopeful, practical path: witness first, build a shared spirituality, make joy a decision, and apologize quickly. Paul Kolker, Nick Bezner, and Jeff Schiefelbein laugh their way through Ignatian holy water, Latin(ish) dad jokes, and a peek behind the scenes of 5 Stones’ work with the Eucharistic Congress. Top Takeaways · Witness > Words: Your kids imitate what you do before they believe what you say. · Love = Willing the Good: Love isn’t a butterfly; it’s a choice repeated daily, especially when it costs you. · Pray Together, Not Just “Next To”: Stop forcing your spouse into your style; discover a shared spirituality through dialogue and humility. · Boundaries Are Love: Discipline that trains, not shames. · Entrance Prayer: Before you walk in the door, pause and pray because your primary vocation is waiting at home. · Joy on Purpose: Temperaments differ, but joy can be a decision in service of love. · Own It Fast: The quickest way to lead at home? Admit faults and apologize to your wife and your kids. Practical Challenge (Do This Today) · Text of Blessing: Send your wife a simple, sincere note, no agenda, just love. · Hidden Service: Do one chore she’ll never notice… because you did it before it became a burden. · Couple Prayer Plan: Choose one shared devotion for the week (e.g., Divine Mercy Chaplet in the car; a decade after dinner; or a bedtime psalm). · Driveway Pause: Say a short prayer in the car before entering the house. Learn more about 5 Stones weare5stones.com https://www.linkedin.com/company/5-stones/posts/?feedView=all Books by Mike Pacer Prayers for Catholic Men Mercy and Hope The Three Comings of Christ - Daily Meditations for Advent Our Partners: Sock Religious (10% Discount) Solidarity HealthShare Aquinas Wealth Advisors Lucid Private Office Divine Comedy Undivided Life Follow The BeatiDudes: BeatiDudes Website LinkedIn Facebook Instagram Twitter Jeff Schiefelbein on LinkedIn BeatiDudes Theme Song and Music By The Pencil Bureau Dave Moore Music