Episode 291: OCPD and Scrupulosity: How the Worship of Rules and Control Leads to the Loneliness of Certainty
Being Human
Certainty feels like safety. But you can only ever be certain alone — and the life you build on control slowly becomes a lonely one. In week two of the series on OCPD, Dr. Greg explores why we reach for control when trust feels dangerous — and how the certainty we build to feel safe ends up costing us the very relationships it was meant to protect. Key Topics: * Why the certainty that makes you feel safe is the same thing that leaves you alone * How a rule can feel safer than a person — because a rule never changes its face * Why the control you use to protect the people you love can drive them straight into the danger you feared * How devotion can quietly turn into a contract with God instead of trust in Him * Why trying harder to get it perfect is the pattern itself, not the way out of it Learn More: * Previous episode in this series — OCPD Part 1: * Ep. #290: "I'm Only Loved When I'm Perfect": The Lie Fueling Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder * Join us at the Summit of Integration this October in Dallas — launching the Year of St. John Paul II * Faith of the Fatherless: The Psychology of Atheism by Dr. Paul Vitz — on how wounded trust in a father can shape our capacity for faith * Person and Act — St. John Paul II's (Karol Wojtyła's) philosophical work on the acting person, and the personalist heart of this episode * Stop Walking on Eggshells by Paul Mason & Randi Kreger — the book on borderline patterns Dr. Greg references * Start of the Being Human series on the Antisocial Defense Patterns: * Ep. #281: Control or Be Controlled: The Devastating Wounds Behind Antisocial Behavioral Patterns * Start of the Being Human series on the Borderline Defense Patterns: * Ep. #269: BORDERLINE: The Push-Pull Between a Fear of Abandonment and Annihilation * Start of the Being Human series on the Histrionic Defense Patterns: * Ep. #274: To Be Loved Is to Perform: Inside the Histrionic Compulsion for Attention and Validation * Start of the Being Human series on the Dependent Defense Patterns: * Ep. #265: Jerry Maguire, Gollum, and the Fear of Not Existing * Start of the Being Human series on the Narcissistic Defense Patterns: * Ep. #261: Narcissism and the Terror of Being Ordinary * Need help? Schedule a free CatholicPsych consultation. * Want to help? Learn more about our Certification in Professional Accompaniment. Follow Us on Socials: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Twitter (X) | LinkedIn