Your Success Won’t Heal Your Wounds w/ Jerry LoCoco
Sword&Spade
Jerry LoCoco grew up in a trailer in rural Yuma, Arizona, the son of a violent father and a mother who became a meth addict when he was thirteen, and he spent years hiding that background behind a law degree and one accomplishment after another. None of it healed him. He joins Jason Craig to talk about the masks men build as boys, his novel, Gringo Salado, and the habits of silence, prayer, reading, and writing that finally began to heal his wounds. In This Episode, We Cover: * Why Jerry sees poverty, not race, as the true enemy of kids raised in chaos * How the coping habits that keep a child safe, like sorting every person into good or bad, start damaging a grown man’s relationships * Why a law degree couldn’t heal his wounds * What mimetic desire is, and how chasing what other men have leaves you empty * Why feeling lost around forty can be a tug toward God rather than an excuse for a midlife crisis Resources Mentioned: * Fraternus * Gringo Salado, A Story of Faith, Hope, and Love * Disordered Self Love, How It Saves and Then Destroys * David Torkington Find Your Brothers: You Need Brothers, And They Need You. DON’T GO ALONE Fraternus gets men out from behind their screens and shoulder to shoulder, building a Catholic culture their sons can inherit. Find your brothers at https://fraternus.org/memberships/ Chapters: * 00:00: Judging people raised in chaos * 02:39: Where the name Gringo Salado came from * 07:37: Poverty runs deeper than race * 17:22: A book that opened in his hometown * 23:53: Why a man has to understand his wounds * 36:11: The Thanksgiving play and the mask * 50:13: Mimetic desire and the treadmill of wanting * 59:50: Finding silence at Mass * 01:09:20: When nothing works at forty * 01:14:55: Looking beyond your own home Produced by Saint Kolbe Studios